She killed her man, buried him in a 12 ft hole in the backyard, covered it with a concrete patio, waited for the newly-acquired life insurance payout, while living in the Turks and Caicos with her young gay lover – Who would have expected that?


Being laid up after an accident, you tend to have some time on your hands. Too much time sometimes.

I don’t normally watch a lot of tv. When I do, I’m partial to a good series such as Six Feet Under, Luther or House of Cards. Or comedies such as This Hour has 22 minutes, Mr. D., etc. And of course, the news.

Recently, though, I’ve sunk to a new personal low. So low, I’m high! I’ve even enjoyed it! I’ve sort of become addicted to the NBC-produced show Dateline: Real Life Mysteries. The producers sure know how to work the audience and could easily stand accused of being melodramatic. The true-life and often times bizarre machinations of the characters draw you in. Or at least it has done so to the ailing-me.

With the assistance of a PVR (Personal Video Recorder), and TLC  (The Learning (??) Channel), I’ve been taping the 10 or so episodes that appear as repeats each week. The show has been around for 24 years and I’ve never watched it before so I’m somewhat concerned about what I’ve gotten myself into. Each episode is an hour long but, thanks to the PVR, I’m able to eliminate commercials and  the plot re-caps that follow each commercial break, as well as the plot-twist teasers that precede each commercial set. My guess is there’s about 30 minutes in each show once you eliminate that.

And what a wallop they manage to pack into those 30 minutes – the look-back at the budding high school romance, the blissful early years of a growing family, followed by the all-too-quick dulling of the romance, the ensuing dalliances, and the fateful conclusion. Or the caring but tormented employee. Or the dark stranger in the dark suburbs. The pillar of the community reduced to a crumple. No matter what the situation, you can always count on a few interesting twists and turns to accompany the sad and woeful circumstances the real-life characters find themselves in.

Some of you may be surprised to read me regaling such fare. I don’t think I’m necessarily taking the position of trumpeting the show or others of it’s ilk, but I am saying that I find it interesting that I’ve been drawn into it’s web. My sense is that the mundane and drudgery of being stuck inside as I recover, combined with the cold of winter, have created fertile grounds. Moreover, as the control or limitations brought on by PD exert themselves more forcibly, the invitation to “escape” and be parachuted into other’s lives in other exotic locales, is difficult to deny.

However, all is not lost. As I feel more able to get about, I already feel like I’m able to devote less time to tuning in to this show. As winter morphs into spring, which it inevitably will one day, I’m sure that the invitation to escape to the outdoors will be even harder to resist. And then, I’ll likely sever my relationship with Dateline. Sure, I may be drawn back for the proverbial fling or two in the years ahead, but I’ve learned a thing or two from this show that will keep me in good stead. First, you can never be sure of what lies ahead. Second, enjoy the every day “ordinariness” of every day- we don’t need the drama that so many folks from this show have in theirs. And third, if you ever want to commit a crime like murder, don’t google “how do you commit murder?” on your computer. Or read blogs with titles like this for that matter!

Ok, back to to Lester Holt and Keith Morrison for the conclusion of Killing in Kissimmee: Murder in the Misty Moody Moonlight.


16 thoughts on “She killed her man, buried him in a 12 ft hole in the backyard, covered it with a concrete patio, waited for the newly-acquired life insurance payout, while living in the Turks and Caicos with her young gay lover – Who would have expected that?”

    1. hi graham – good to hear from u. i miss DWP and seeing all u folks but I’m still dealing with the fallout from my fall in late fall (fall seems to be my favourite word :). anyway, do hope I’m back to it – however tentatively i may have to be – within the next few weeks. take good care!


  1. It is actually difficult for TV fiction to outdo reality TV re showing how bizarre everyday life can be. In reality as opposed to reality TV the bizarre is typically bracketed at both ends by long periods of stultifying boredom, which may cause you to let your guard down. Here is my advice: As dismally dull as one’s life can be it is better than the alternative and as much as you think those closest to you would never betray you it is only prudent to always sleep with one eye open. I know my sisters who live together always sleep with at least one eye open. I’m sure that’s the only reason they have survived as long as they have.
    Have a speedy recovery and do watch the first season of True Detective

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    1. thx john – getting bit better eery week but it’s slow at this age! good advise for sleeping too (unless u r a one-eyed Jack:) ill look for True Detective – hadn’t heard of it till now. cheers


  2. So sorry to hear you took a bad spill. It takes no time at all to hit the ground but plenty for those lumps and bumps to heal, arggh. I was laid up a while back with a burn and had to keep my leg elevated, so I asked friends to load me up with DVDs and they came up with some great ones. I’d forgotten how funny Charlie Chaplin was! As for murder, there’s no topping “Rear Window” — at least yet! All the best from Beckey at


    1. hi becky – thx for your thoughts! my biggest challenge is regaining my shaken confidence I’m walking/moving so gingerly these days 😦 dr is referring me to a Fall Prevention program so hope that helps. As for Rear Window, just a few weeks ago i took delivery of a Hitchcock collection from Amazon – purchased to turn my kids onto a great film maker but now fodder for my lethargy (or i guess i should call it my rehab!). Had my daughter who is at school in SF watch Vertigo before going back – some excellent views of the city’s past! hope u r well. cheers! rk


  3. Hi shaky dad. Enjoy your blogs. I’d like to start one myself. My husband has PD. Diagnosed this year but coming on for years. Started out as depression, then chemical poisoning, then dementia. Now with Pet scan, PD and Alz. Mostly I see PD at this point, not much physical but classic other symptoms. My question? As a caregiver do you think it is appropriate for me to join the group?


    1. wow – u have a full plate. thx for stopping by to read the blog. As to ur question, absolutely! your voice, as a partner and caregiver is essential in this community. Pls do share! Hope you do write and I look forward to reading your work! cheers. rk


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